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Combining Family & Career

A Woman with Demons…

“Life demands a huge price from a woman – almost her entire existence – in the form of everyday life.

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Even in my present mode of life, I have to spend a much greater time and energy than a man for the sake of everyday life.

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Not in an abstract manner as is the case with a man, but in a really concrete, urgent manner to provide daily food and clothes for the household.”
Kamiya Mieko (Japanese psychiatrist)

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Combining Family & Career

Climbing the Ladder, Carrying Her Family

Men have wives at home to do the housework, to prepare the food, and care for the children. This allows them to climb the ladder of success unencumbered.

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A woman, unless she chooses to be childless, or is wealthy, climbs that same ladder with a huge burden on her back.

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Isn’t it time for men to come out of the cosset?
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Combining Family & Career

The Double Burden of Career & Housework

We all know there are no days off in parenting—and research shows just how hard moms are working. A study released by Welch’s looked at 2,000 American moms of kids between five and 12 years old, and found the average hours moms work per week is 98. As in the equivalent of two-and-a-half full-time jobs.

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(a) Holding a full-time job is demanding, hard-work.

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(b) Caring for house, hubby, and heirs is demanding, hard work and a full-time job.

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Studies show:
Men do (a) and contribute little to (b). Women do (a) and the majority of (b).

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Men have been privileged to focus on (a) because they can rely on some woman to step-in and do (b) for them.

Women still have to do both and cannot rely on anyone to step-in and do (b) for them.

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Cultural Advantage: Men.
Cultural Handicap: Women.

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Men have no more right to crow to women about their “success” in the business world, and how that success is derived from their superior “attachment” to their work, than a fighter who has beaten an opponent with his hands tied behind his back.

A double burden (AKA double day, second shift, or double duty) is the workload many women face while working to earn money while also carrying the burden of an outsized share of responsibility for domestic labor.

Learn more about the Double Burden that modern women face.

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Combining Family & Career

Options Which Are Not Options?

Mother kneeling with child
According to a study done by Salary.com, a full-time stay-at-home mom works 96 hours/week.

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A working mom can expect to put-in nearly 100 hours per week.

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A woman’s options:

Worked to death regardless of her choice.

According to Welch’s, the average mom gets going around 6:23 a.m. and the work doesn’t stop until 8:31 p.m. (And, for many of us, that sounds like a good day.)

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The New Labor Laws

Just a Wife and Mother.

For millennia, by our blood, our work, our suffering, women have birthed the world. Our names are forgotten.



We laid down our lives, and our futures, to serve our country, our people. Our contributions are denigrated and dismissed.



We are the unknown and unappreciated soldiers. She was just a wife and mother.
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The New Labor Laws

When Every Mother Is a Hero

Women will have equality when every mother is a hero.

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When every mother is entitled to pay, a pension and veteran’s benefits. When there are statues honouring The Unknown Mother.

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When the life of those who died giving life is as precious as the life of those who died giving death.
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Combining Family & Career

Great Women on Motherhood

At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you’ve left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent.
Golda Meir

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When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.
Sophia Loren

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Take motherhood … the pay is lousy and the career ladder nonexistent.
Barbara Ehrenreich

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By and large, mothers and housewives are the only workers who do not have regular time off. They are the great vacationless class.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh

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We have a secret in our [doula] culture, and it’s not that birth is painful. It’s that women are strong.
Laura Stavoe Harm

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Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.
Barbara Kingsolver
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Combining Family & Career

MOTHERS AS JEDI: May the 4th Be with You

Women’s rights in essence is really a movement for freedom, a movement for equality, for the dignity of all women, for those who work outside the home and those who dedicate themselves with more altruism than any profession I know to being wives and mothers, cooks and chauffeurs, and child psychologists and loving human beings.
– Jill Ruckelshaus

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There is an unspoken pact that women are supposed to follow. I am supposed to act like I constantly feel guilty about being away from my kids. (I don’t. I love my job.) Mothers who stay at home are supposed to pretend they are bored and wish they were doing more corporate things. (They don’t. They love their job.)
Amy Poehler

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To nourish children and raise them against odds is any time, any place, more valuable than to fix bolts in cars or design nuclear weapons.”
Marilyn French

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You go through big chunks of time where you’re just thinking, ‘This is impossible — oh, this is impossible.’ And then you just keep going and keep going, and you sort of do the impossible.
Tina Fey (on being a working Mother)

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Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.
Elizabeth Stone

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There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.
Jill Churchill

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Catch-22 (Snatch-22)

The Contempt for Wifely Roles

Even buildings speak of the contempt Society feels for the wifely roles.

Nannys often get the worst room in the house. What a way to show our appreciation for their "motherly duties".
Once I visited a stately house with huge airy rooms, graced with picture windows and light.

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In the basement, behind the furnace, was a tiny, dark, dank, and windowless room for the nanny/domestic.

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Even our architecture betrays the contempt we feel for the wifely roles of child-care and housekeeping.

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The Invisible Woman

½ of Total National Output

Women workers contribute 40% of GDP in developed nations, but what if housework was included in Gross National Product?

In developed economies women produce about 40% of official GDP.

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However, women also do most of the housework – 70% of it. If the value of this housework (calculated at the average wage for a nanny or domestic – that is, at artificially low wages) were included in GNP, then we would produce significantly over ½ of total national output.

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What our contribution to economic wealth would be if the true value to Society of “women’s work” was recognized, and we were compensated the way sports celebrities are, is mind boggling.